Confidence builds Success

 Confidence builds Success

Some in the industry will disagree and claim that those with less confidence is more successful, but I totally disagree with such an observation and with good reason.

Often times successful people come across as arrogant and rude, while others come across as timid and shy, those who are arrogant and rude were born that way as were the timid and shy successful people. However, while both come from opposite spectrums of the success sphere, they have one thing in common, they are successful in their chosen field, so there is no right or wrong concept to being the saying of being confident means you will become successful.

What it does mean is this – you work hard in your chosen field and you will eventually become successful. If you, don’t you want. When we speak of confidence, we aren’t speaking about the arrogant and rude individuals because they are not completely overconfident in their field, instead, we’re dealing with their overblown ego because they are in a position of authority and they love it. Instead, I am talking about confidence in their ability, skills, goals, and mission to succeed in their chosen field of business.

Confidence means action and your willingness to stand up for integrity and yourself, lack of confidence means inaction and allowing others to walk all over you. Plain and simple.

When you are confident in your abilities and skills you will seize the moment and take action to be successful. There are many reasons why self-confident individuals succeed and here they are:

1)     Don’t Procrastinate – Confident people never procrastinate in their business or their tasks. People procrastinate because they don’t know how to get started. They believe the tasks they need to accomplish are just to hard to accomplish. They don’t have the skillset, experience or motivation to get started. Easily distracted by pets, phone or internet or just other people in general.

2)      If you’re not capable of creating a list of tasks, prioritize those tasks and schedule them for completion, I nor any other life coach can’t help you, so make up your mind are you going to succeed or are you going to fail right now? Don’t waste mine or your time in wanting to succeed. If you want to succeed, then continue to read on, if not don’t bother. Good luck.

3)      Driven attitude to succeed – When you are a confident person you start off with a bang. You’re not shy about implementing a new idea or concept while others are still stinking about an idea.

4)      Overcoming Fear – A lack of confidence can cause you to feel immobile with absolute fear. That’s fear of failing in your chosen endeavor. Fear of what people think of you and your idea. Fear of succeeding. So, I say build that confidence and realize that fear can be overcome and conquered so that you can succeed. You must fail before you succeed.

5)      Know when to say NO – Those who are confident in themselves and their ability to make things happen, know when to say “no” when it is appropriate. These individuals don’t take on unproductive or unnecessary tasks unless they have to do with their business directly and will enhance their business success.

6)      Know when to say YES – Saying “Yes” is an open door to an opportunity to grow one’s business and succeed. It is an opportunity for growth or to meet certain people who potentially can open the door to other opportunities in the future. Never turn down new opportunities because you think you’re not worthy of the opportunity, instead look at the situation as a new door being opened for you to learn something new and exciting.

7)      Stretching your limits - Stretching your limits has to do with trying new things, new ideas, and stepping over the boundaries of safety yet not destroying those boundaries. Just don’t over-extend yourself too much while stretching those limits. If you take on too much, too soon, you might stab yourself in the foot and destroy what you’ve already accomplished. 

8)      Raising the bar of success – Those who truly wish to succeed set their bar of success really high, then aim for that threshold and obtain the goals set for themselves. Successful people never set the bar low because they know they will not achieve the success they dream of instead they will obtain run-of-the-mill results.

9)      Ask Questions – Successful people aren’t afraid to ask questions in order to learn from those more successful or better yet ask the question they need to learn from, such as is there any job openings in your firm? 

10  Believe in yourself – No matter what happens in your business career, never stop believing in yourself. Take steps to learn new things, new skills and most of all meet new people who will support you and encourage you on your journey. As soon as you doubt yourself, you will fail. So never stop believing in yourself.

11  Confidence means Winning – Winning means life is a competition and the habits of confident people can change the lives of themselves and others. Here’s how habits can change people, never judge others. When you pass judgment on others you tell them you are self-conscious and should be avoided. Not a good thing to have in your habit bag. Confident people speak with conviction and certainty. They never converse with phrases such as “I think” or “I’m not sure if” or “Umm”. Those phrases are for people who lack self-confidence in their life. So never open a conversation with these phrases. The most important habit is to learn to listen rather than always speaking. Speak with intelligence and mind your tone so as to only speak to those in your group never to the entire room, because that’s disturbing and rude. Confident people are not afraid to ask questions so they can learn from those who know more than they do. They are also not afraid to ask for help when needed. They are also happy for those within their peer circle when they succeed. Celebrating their victories shows how confident they truly are in who they are as a business person. Confident people aren’t afraid to take advantage of new opportunities. They’re willing to take risks in order to succeed.

12   Act without waiting for permission – Because it is your success we’re dealing with here, you never have to ask for permission to accomplish a task or making a decision, just do it.

13   Conflict – Don’t shy away from conflict, find a solution and know that conflict is part of your life’s journey. Conflict can be awkward or difficult but you can learn from it as a life lesson. Embrace it and solve the problem.

14   Believe in your ability to succeed – never underestimate yourself or your abilities. Be brave and believe in yourself that you can succeed. Make it happen!

 

Author Elizabeth Kilbride is a former political operative, author, scriptwriter, historian, journalist. business professional, and creative artist, and life coach consultant. Ms. Kilbride holds a Masters in Criminology and a BS in Business Management who stepped out of the loop for a while, but who is now back with a powerful opinion and voice in the direction of this country and our economy. As a life coach, she is available to counsel individuals to enjoy their dreams and a better life. Ms. Kilbride loves to travel, photograph her surroundings and is also a gourmet cook who loves to garden and preserve food for the winter months.